In today’s world, there is always this push for perfection. To have the perfect house. To make the perfect dinner. To have the perfect outfit or outdoor living area. But let’s face it, there is no such thing as the perfect life. Things aren’t made to fit in a neat little box that someone drops off at your doorstep. Sometimes you just suck. And you know what? It is okay to suck at life. It truly is not the end of the world.
There are days I really struggle with the stigma of perfection. Oh, I don’t have a presentable front porch area? There are weeds everywhere? So what! Instead of wasting time making things perfect and beating myself up for it not being perfect, just move on.
And by moving on, I mean moving myself off the couch and putting myself in front of my computer. For trying to better my life by making my blog more successful. I may or may not still suck at life, but at least I am trying to do something about it.
So why is it okay to suck at life?
Because we are humans. We are not mindless robots programmed to do certain things at predetermined times. Being human is what makes each one of us so special. Many of us do like fun schedules, and they generally keep us on task. Unless you are me and laundry is involved. I can have 52 schedules and post-it notes for laundry, and I still can’t get it done.
Having moments when we suck at life gives a chance to find out that, hey, we are not alone in this journey. Outside appearances aren’t always what they seem. During a FB live from a fellow blogger, I picked up on 2 main things: don’t judge other people for what they are doing to make it in the world AND we are all in this together.
Did you hear that? We are all in this together. Yeah. Many times we have this skewed idea that we are the only one struggling with housework, or our job, or maintaining our blogs. Even the most successful bloggers out there have their moments when they suck at life.
What can you do when you think you suck at life?
- Tell yourself to just shut up. I can’t even tell you how much I struggle with this. I will admit, I have always struggled with self-esteem issues. And for a LONG time I let it define who I was. And because of that, I probably talked myself out of a lot of amazing opportunities. I let what other people thought of me to define my life and worth, and it was the worst decision I could have made.
- Take a moment to step away and refocus. Stop whatever it is you are doing, step outside and just sit. Or go for a drive to get coffee but take the longest route possible. Those wise words were from Audrey & Vera.
- Reach out to a fellow blogger or a friend. As I said above, as bloggers and business people, we all struggle with the same doubts and fears and frustrations. How we choose to deal with it will be what defines us. And bouncing fears and doubts off another person can be the most helpful thing.
- Drink more coffee(or if it’s after 5, your favorite adult beverage.). I guess this isn’t a super secret solution, but it does help. As far as adult beverages, this is my drink of choice:
- Repeat the steps until it sinks in. Self-doubt creeps into my life probably every other hour. Maybe someday I will finally learn how to shut it off, but until I do, it is just a vicious cycle. So I just keep moving forward, at least until it hits again.
- As a last resort, run outside and scream. Most of my neighbors are at work when I am blogging, so this is definitely an option. Otherwise, grab that pillow and scream away.
And why isn’t it the end of the world?
Because life can be so hard sometimes! And yes, we all may suck at life. But this is the most important time for you to stop and look around. Celebrate your successes. Congratulate yourself that while the laundry may not be done, supper is on the table. Smile because your kids are finally getting along after fighting all day.
It’s not the end of the world because you have the chance to wake up the next day and try again. You may fail again, but each day is a do-over. Embrace it. Rock it. Own it.
But most importantly, be confident in knowing that you are right where you are supposed to be at this time in your life. How you choose to go forward is all up to you.